Becoming a parent is a wonderful and life changing experience. You have a new little person in your life, so there’s going to be changes in you as well.
As a reader and seeker of information, I turned to books and the Internet to help me out during different stages of my parenting journey.
I am so grateful to be living in an age when so much information is available literally at my fingertips. These are some of the books that have broadened my parenting perspectives and helped me better connect with my child.
What to expect: The First year by Heidi Murkoff
This is of course the bible for every new parent. It gives suggestions from different parenting perspectives so you don’t feel your choices are wrong or something you need to feel guilty about.
It takes you through the different milestones each month. Your baby might reach them sooner or later but at least you’ll know what to expect and how to deal with it. It’s very detailed and that gives you a sense of confidence so you don’t have to call someone in the middle of the night for assurances that your baby is alright.
I would suggest reading this instead of the pregnancy book in the same series.
Scientific Secrets of Raising Kids who Thrive by Peter M. Vishton
This is a series of lectures available as an audiobook. I found a lot of the ideas and research very helpful in understanding how I want to parent my child. Again, this is not a how-to book, but a research-based look to understanding what works better and why.
I got to know the difference between focussing on a child’s intelligence vs their efforts, or the perils of too much applause, and why you shouldn’t introduce a new food to your baby when they’re unwell. It covers many such minor behaviours we don’t think twice about.
It’s a good one to start with when you want to break the cycle of “we went through this and turned out fine”.
The Whole-Brain Child by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
This book is for parents of toddlers. It’s a good introduction on how to deal with kids especially during difficult days when they don’t want to listen to any reasoning.
Dealing with temper tantrums and power struggles might not become easier, but you’ll understand better why it might be happening. It definitely helps you manage the situation and your response in a healthier way.
The workings of the child’s brain is well explained and the age-wise chart of responses at the end is also helpful.
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For parents of newborns, I would highly recommend researching baby sign language. It helped us understand our baby’s needs a little better and prevented a crying fit or two. You can make up the signs that make sense to you. The goal is to communicate better with a non-verbal baby.
All the best.
You’ll need it!
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