All posts tagged: Pregnancy Diaries

Mother with her newborn baby

Childbirth and its Aftermath

Pregnancy might be your most beautiful stage in life, but it’s certainly not as rosy as it is made to sound. Becoming a parent is the greatest thing that can happen to a person. It holds a baby inside you for nine months and then when you finally give birth you get to meet him or her. Becoming a parent is one of the biggest changes you’ll ever go through in your life. It can be exciting and scary. It’s the kind of change that will enrich your life or destroy it. Few things are as more important than parenthood. It’s a difficult job, but also an important one to have. Becoming a parent for the first time can be very intimidating. Like most women, I had only ever heard of good things that happen when you have a baby. You glow while you are pregnant and are always smiling looking at your cute baby bump in the mirror. Childbirth pain is just a minor inconvenience that you’ll forget as soon as the baby comes …

Showing up my baby bump with dog at feet

Pregnant Lady Coming Through

So, you’re pregnant. Now what? I was so focussed on getting pregnant that I didn’t think about what will happen once I do.  Pregnancy can be one of the most memorable periods in a woman’s life. Each month is full of a different set of extreme emotions and physical changes (some welcome, some not so much). Thinking about being pregnant is a pretty scary experience. You’re not sure what to expect and there seems like a lot that can go wrong. The first thing you need to understand is that if you’re pregnant, everything is going to be okay. The second thing you need to remember is pregnancy lasts for 40 weeks or 280 days, (and sometimes 289). And that’s just the beginning. First things first – a visit to the doctor was scheduled. With a big sigh of relief she confirmed my pregnancy. Then gave me a list of Dos and Don’ts. <sigh> Since this was going to be a delicate pregnancy she asked me not to exert myself. No issues there. I’m not …

Project Pregnancy

People, I’ve noticed, are not comfortable talking about getting assistance of any kind. Whether it’s about your rise up the ladder of success or how your child was the product of scientific assistance rather than the purely traditional method of conception.  Assisted pregnancy refers to any type of artificial or non-natural method to improve and increase the odds of conceiving a baby. I was hesitant to share my journey with anyone thinking that it was none of anybody’s business and I didn’t want further probing into my private life. Maybe, I didn’t want anyone to think my body was anything less than every other woman’s fully-functional body. The amount of unnecessary stress we take on ourselves is astounding. The amount of information we deprive each other because of this imagined shame is even more so. When we started trying to get pregnant, I had never even been to a gynaecologist. Ever. I was 32 years old. The first step was, of course, getting a regular check-up. I went to a local clinic that had good …

Do I want a baby now?

Growing up, having kids seemed like the natural progression of life. I even liked babies. Every adult I knew married and had immediately had a child. It’s what grown-ups did.  As I slowly became a grown-up myself, the idea seemed less appealing. There was a world to explore and marriage and kids would put restrictions. Do all women need babies? I took a travelling job and travelled without thinking about getting home to someone (apart from my anxious mother), I changed jobs and cities without giving it much thought apart from my convenience, and I catered to no one but myself. I was periodically reminded by everyone and their grandmothers how I needed to settle down and get married before I was too old. Who would want to marry a 30-year-old spinster? Moreover, babies need to be delivered in your 20s. Having babies in your 30s is too risky. But I wasn’t even ready to get married. Will I ever want a baby? Does everyone want a baby? Eventually, I did find someone I felt …